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Hey, just another ex friend whom you hate now here for advice. There is this girl, she is cool I like her but I dont know how much. I can’t tell the difference, do I think she’s a really cool friend or am I actually developing romantic feelings? Granted we don’t hang out alot, just here and there like regular functioning people in their early 20s who attend school and have jobs. I do however find myself usually hoping that the next window of free time I have is filled with linking her (aswell as other friends in the circle). I always found her attractive physically but her mind and spirit seems to get more beautiful by the day. She has a boyfriend, i think, but regardless I dont really see myself jepordizing the comfortability of our relationship as friends, thats just my character. Im pretty sure she is oblivious to these feelings of mine but im even more sure that if she is aware she would neverrrr address it or even reciprocate given her situation. All I am trying to figure out is in my mind, is this a friend that I love as a person or a person that I want to love more than a friend?
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There’s this guy that I talked to for a year, and we moved too fast. So now we don’t talk the same way. We care about each other but he doesn’t care ENOUGH to get over himself and be with me. We can still hang, and its beautiful because we get along so well. He’s always down to mess around, and dont get me wrong– I want to. But every time I go down that road, my feelings are too involved. Should I just leave him alone completely?
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Ive been talking to a girl since HS seriously and we shared a lot of memories together but as of recently I found someone new, someone full of life, someone I genuinely fuck with, someone I dont mind being with everyday and doing things for. We enjoy each other company, we disagree on a lot of things but we always end up good by the end of the night. However, I found myself dipping back into my old girl. I see her everyday, & I dont see the new girl because of distant. Now my old girl, I appreciate and have no love lost for her but I understand it just can’t be. I don’t look at her the same way as the other girl. I often tried to explain to the girl from the summer that the distant was messing us up, but I found out as time went along it was just me. I dipped back & found myself in a lost place. I found myself not caring anymore, I found myself going against everything that I preached to her from day 1. Me n the girl from high school was suppose to be done & that day that I dipped back in just crushed everything. But here I am now, I decided to change n even tho I see that ex girl every day I dont speak, we have no sexual relationship, we are distant- as we should be because I know even when she doesnt this relationship isnt going anymore. I felt real love, genuine love with the new girl & I want that back. I think about her, think about the memories, the good n the bad even the fights & I miss it all. I miss her n we are still distant so I dont know how to approach her. I lied to her, I know she feels hurt n betrayed because I went against everything I said that stood me a part from the rest of these niggas out here. But I know for sure she is who I want. I understand she is mad right now, single, n enjoying her life as I should but I can’t just let that go by. I think its too late until we see face to face and who knows when that will be. From a female respective, will you consider taking a second chance? How would you want to be approached? When do you want to be approached because its obvious she is still wounded by my troublesome. Just a few answers I need from a female. Any other advice ? let me kno
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So I’m dealing with this woman & I feel like she had all the makings of a great woman. The problem here is that she wants an open relationship because she claims we would have urges & such but I feel like that’s an excuse to be a hoe. I told her numerous times I wouldn’t have feelings to do such things,I’m really tryna give my all to one woman. She says she can do the same & thinks having sex with others wouldn’t result in her being partial. Do you think it’s worth pursuing? I mean even if she decides to remain faithful I guess I wouldn’t be able to trust her right?
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Hi Ajee,
So, I am in a long distance relationship with a man I used to be with a year ago when he lived here… he is really the only man I want right now but his distance is killing me… he’s literally everything I have asked for and more.. but I just, I guess him not being with me physically is the issue but I start to get an attitude with him. I’m snappy and mean at times. I love him, I love everything about him.. but what am I to do? Do I wait because I love him.. so I wait? For how long?
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