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Heyyyy so this girl in my school who I was friends with since forever, is throwing me under the bus, lying about me and all this extra ridiculousness for popularity. I’ve been dealing with certain patterns of her stupidity for yearssss. We aren’t close anymore but we share similar friends which is why I still have her-related problems. Something happened recently that was caused by her, makes me look bad, and makes this other girl not want to be cool with me. But it was completely made up, and she’s way closer with my ex-friend than she is with me. She is TIRED of problems with me (when the source of these issues is really the other girl.) should I blow up my ex friends spot? ? Or should I be gracious?
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Me and my boyfriend broke up. We share all the same friends. He was a little grimey, so I’m really upset at how everything ended, even though I could envision us being dope friends and probably working things out when we see each other again. Maybe. But even aside from all that, should I kind of ignore him some when I see him? I go away for school, so we basically live around each other. I will see him ALL of the TIME 😦
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Okay so my ex and I dated at a very young age he was my first love we took each other’s virginities even got pregnant before.. But like our communication is terrrrrribleeee its like he never wants to open up to me and talk about real feelings and when he does he always wants to dwell on the past . We are in our 20’s now and he’s always citing back to things that occurred when we were like 13 like really dude? But anyway we broke up when we were young and started speaking again like a year ago and we still speak now but things arent the same. In January I cut him off because I wasn’t getting the attention and consistency That i deserved from him. I guess I expected too much. I always felt like I was bothering him when I was speaking to him. I often feel like he is very careless when it comes to love anyway he swears up and down like he loves me so much but often I question that. I bitch and complain about the same things and nothing ever changes.
He’s told me that he doesn’t care about himself like he doesn’t care if he dies. How could he truly care about me or anyone if he doesn’t care about himself ? … Moving on, he asked me out but I said no because we have issues we need to get passed and he always wants to rush into things and sweep shit under the rug. About a month later we stop speaking for about a month and I found my way back.
( We’re always off and on this was pretty normal )
I love him. I missed him. It bothered me that we went from speaking every day to not speaking at all. Okay so fast forward about april I found out he had a gf through a friend of a friend so I approached the situation. He denied it multiples times…. So I mean I kind of believed him UNTIL I saw HER Instagram. He still denied it lol I felt disrespected. I blocked him from like May until mid June. He contacted me from his friends phone number and basically acted like nothing happened. Again I blocked him and he still comes after me. He always comes after me. He still says I love you. He’s still trying to play house. He’s still trying to have sex. He’s acting like everything is okay. And it’s really fucking not. I really don’t understand? Every time I see him he wants to come over and he’s always tired when he gets here. At first I was with it bc id do anything just to be close to him and spend time but now I’m completely fuckin over it! We barely speak like that ( I kind of talk to him on my own terms now ) and when I finally do see him he really wants to go to sleep??? I feel used.
I love him but my heart beats differently for him now. It’s not the same as it was when we were kids. He’s no longer the person I fell In love with but still I am/ was willing to accept him for who he is now and all his extra baggage. He’s become such a different person for the worst and I know deep down inside there’s that nice guy that I first met. I feel like he has so much potential to be a better person and create a better life for himself but he’s heavily influenced by his friends who Just do hood things. He also has security issues and just a lot of fucked up shit has happens in his life And it’s like I always wanna be there for him bc I’ll feel like shit if something was to ever happen to him… I just feel like I have to be !! I want so much for him …
But a lot of times I really question if he really loves me ? Sometimes I figure yea bc through it all he always comes back I’ll literally block him on every social site possible and he still finds a way but then other times I just don’t understand what we’re doing like… I should just let shit go and I try! But he won’t let it. I feel like he doesn’t even know me for who I am now and doesn’t care to try to get to know me. His mind is so juvenile at this point and I’m just not for it anymore the more I spend time around him. The more I see how different we are mentally at this point in our lives but it’s hard to let go….. We always end up back together!!!!! and the whole girlfriend thing really burns a hole in my soul… He recently like a month ago admitted to it. He couldn’t even look me in the eye. His exact words with a pillow covering his face being ” i fucked up” But the bitch still exists…. And still he calls me, tries to come see me, spend the night and everything. Regardless if I was here first or not I know it’s wrong even being in contact with him but he makes it hardddddd not to be lol he’s not going away and I’m tired of talking and actions not being made, my voice going unheard. So I dont say much but my heart feels it all….long story I know but idk wtf to do… I know I’m a lot for him mentally & everything because I am pretty mature so I guess that’s why he wants his cake and to eat it too but I don’t feel like it’s fair for me to be mentally physically emotionally loyal to someone that’s doing me like that.
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This somethin i usually talk to my bros about but i dnt they advice would help I think I need a female perspective.
Long story short, I love my girl. I never loved a girl before until her. I want to share the world with her kind of love, i see us together being a family….
But , for some reason as much as i love her & as much as i care about her feelings and try not to hurt her. As much as i see her being my future wife and mother of my kids & i know we still young & shit like that but thats who i want when that time comes……
BUT I Still cant help the fact i Sometime crush on other females. Like my heart, my soul is my girls to have and keep but i still feel urges to fuck with other females. Maybe cuz im still young and shit ? Idk but to get to the point
I want my girl I love my girl I dnt want to lose her. But i want to fuck wit other girls from time to time .. Nothing more nothing less . its just fuckin but i know its more than that to females. Ah nigga really dnt know what to do. I dnt wanna hurt herr dont wanna lose her also dnt want to neglect what i may want. Im confused dog lol. We been together for like a year too idk if dat would help wit your feedback. She help me grow & change in all my ways except this one. I havent cheated (physically at least) but im scared i will one day
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have you ever considered just taking a break with your girl until you are able to get the feelings that you may feel for other woman out? and can be all about her? until then you may still be tempted to mess around with other woman and that’s not right to her if she’s being faithful to you. but you’re still young and still learning/growing, and maybe she will understand that.
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I’ve been crushing on this dude for 3 years (he lived in my area and I known him from the internet but never talked to him) anyways one day something happened and we ended up talking and I told him I lived near by and we decided to meet up. At first he wasn’t what I expected but I gave him another chance and agreed to hang out a second time. Long story short we ended up having sex and now im in a FWB situation with him for about 8 months. The sex doesn’t satisfy me and I never orgasm/cum when I’m with him because he doesn’t know what he is doing even though I know he has been with A LOT of women before me. How does someone who slept with multiple women Dont know how to please a woman?! It disappoints me because I really enjoy him as a person but the sex is trash. Also after sex he becomes really cold and distant and makes me leave directly afterwards or says that he has something to do so I can’t stay. Why do guys act nice before sex but become distant afterwards? It makes me feel really sad. Is it because he is upset that he didn’t make me orgasm or is this the way all dudes are? I need your help. What is his issue.
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