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Okay so i had sex with a friend, and ever since its been sooo awkward. And i sorta just wanna repair it but im such a wuss and i would never bring that event up to him. im not really sure if iv caught feeling or not but i would deff be friends with benefits. but honestly i feel like were both dancing around it. and i really just dont like the awkardness
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SO. Long long long long story short. In high school, I was in a very serious relationship with the guy I loved. We broke up because we were going to be long distance, and we both needed the opportunity to grow. I don’t mind that part, even though at the time I didn’t really understand it, and my heart broke. We were together for only a year and two months. He was my first, he knew my family, he was fun and just.. everything. It took me a long time to get over the fact that things weren’t going to be that way anymore. I talked to and dated other people. (I actually started dating someone prematurely, and by that I mean almost a few months after my HS man and I broke up, and I was still grieving him but I thought stupidly I was over it. <This, I later learned broke his heart that I started dating again so soon.) I've been through a lot since. Recently we found our way back into a wonderful stable friendship that exceeds any other relationship I've ever had, in maturity, understanding, love, comfortability. We never really stopped being cool, even though I had to delete him off my social media, and everything to help myself not want to pree through all his pics and what not so I could finally fully heal 2 and a half years later. (also because I was doing this jealous ex gf thing for a while too.) I am extremely nostalgic. But now, we're all good again. We had a conversation about what we are after so many years. More than friends. Not just exes. Closer than brothers and sisters. I'm okay with that too. I also told him I now have a boyfriend, and he of course, was cool about that too. Why wouldn't he be? We're living our lives now. I will always always always love this man. We are such good friends, we're really platonic. Like.. there's no suggestive talk or anything that could even be considered cheating.
Right now, things with my new boyfriend who I went through so much to be with, are like.. weird. I think we're just still finding our rhythm. I really care about him and I want things to work. So it's not even a question of do I feel for him or blah blah. Still, I'm starting to feel like I made the same mistake as I did over three years ago. I started dating someone and cut off the possibility of me and my HS sweetheart (ima just say HSS) being together. Lol. I don't know if I'm just interpreting things wrong, or if I'm just too attached to see this whole thing clearly. Maybe it's wishful thinking. Like even if me and my bf broke up, my HSS and I probably won't even end up together. Not right now, because we are still long distance. Even though I know many people who think we'll still date somewhere along the line in life. But yeah. I'm having a hard time trying to figure out what to do or how to feel. I'm not even unhappy in my new relationship, I just can't ignore the what if.
You might not be able to give me advice, because well… I don't know if I'm really asking anything. But I would like to know what you think about the whole thing.
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Hey theree!!! My boyfriend is a HORRIBLE communicator. He expresses himself very well, he is intelligent and rational and great. But I mean, like, he’s very old school. He’s soooo bad with keeping up with his phone (a lot of the time his phone didn’t work or was old so he hasn’t gotten used to using one that functions. he’s not concerned about social media or anything.. he’s really focused on whatever he’s doing.) But my thing is.. phones and stuff are apart of our relationship. We could go 24 hours without talking and he wouldn’t even think to hit me up.. or to answer my text!! He’s honestly fried in that sense. He’s a great guy, just a fried one.
I am not very loud about my concerns when I have them because I don’t like to sound whiny or complain or whatever, but this sucks.
We just went almost 24 hours without talking and I called him to see if he was alive or okay, and he’s all good! We got off the phone, he’s about to be busy allll day. And honestly, it irks me so much I feel like I do not have a boyfriend. && It’s not just me that complains about this. His own friends.. his BOYS complain about it too. Should I tell him I feel like I don’t have a boyfriend?? I’m never completely honest about how I’m feeling when things like this happen.
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Hey Ajeé
I’ve been having many self-esteem issues and appearance issues. It’s ruining my relationship with my boyfriend as well as my own happiness. I cry every night because I have lost hope in myself after gaining over 20 pounds. I spend most of my days in sweats or in my room. I have isolated myself from everything that has to do with the outside world like going outside and hanging out with friends. Everytime I’m outside I feel as if everyone is staring out how big I am. I also feel like i have no one who can understand what I’m going through. I just want to feel beautiful again when I look in the mirror. I want to find motivation but I feel like i have none left. Where do I start?
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Hey So since last summer my best friend stopped talking to me and the thing is that she’s The daughter of my moms friend and I only see her when her mom comes over they use to come to over every week but stopped now Im messaging her and she’s not replying although i know she reads it she also didn’t attend my sisters wedding even thought her mom did and I’m kind of angry about that but I really don’t know why she’s doing this I didn’t do anything wrong to her so what should I do ?
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