YoursTrulyA,

There aren’t a lot of details included here, so I can only respond based on what information I know. And if I could ask you some clarifying questions, I’d definitely want to know how far away he moved. Was it across the state? Across the country? I’d also want to know why he moved. Was it for school? For work? Or just a change of scenery? I’m also wondering whether or not he intends for this move to be permanent or temporary, and for how long? That may be one of the most important factors you should consider in making this decision.

From what you’ve already said, it definitely  seems like you really do love him. A lot of long distance relationships start to become tumultuous after some time has passed because the absence that may have initially made the heart grow fonder, can begin to cause a void to form that someone just isn’t physically there to fill. It’s beyond either of your control from the way it seems.

It all comes down to how much it means to you to keep him in your life, and in what capacity? If you really want to work towards maintaining a romantic relationship with him, you’ll both have to accept the inevitable consequences of what comes with the added distance. If and when you can, you should try to budget some money and make time to visit each other. In order to maintain a relationship, you’re gonna have to actually see each other sometime.

The reality of the situation is that if you can’t find time for each other and you can’t get over not having him around, eventually the relationship will die out or end up hurting more than it feels good. Be honest with your significant other, and try your absolute best to end things amicably if you so choose. It’s about being practical and logical. If you want to maintain this relationship, you can. But there’s no shame in admitting something may not work how you wanted them to. It’s better to be honest, and it’s better to maintain a friendship if that’s what you decide you may want.

There’s no rule that says you can’t be together at some point down the line. There’s no way to know if you’ll be brought back together in the future when your circumstances are different.

So again, I don’t know how long you should wait, I’m not sure how long he plans to be away. But I don’t think you should just give up on someone you love. Wait as long as you can, and when or if you feel like you can’t wait anymore, I don’t think you should feel bad for letting it go, for now. If you’re both mature enough and really love each other, it truly will all work out for the best.

If you want to, reply with some more info and I might be able to help a little bit more. I hope I did help in some way, though! Good luck.

Ajeé