“Heyyyy so this girl in my school who I was friends with since forever, is throwing me under the bus, lying about me and all this extra ridiculousness for popularity. I’ve been dealing with certain patterns of her stupidity for yearssss. We aren’t close anymore but we share similar friends which is why I still have her-related problems. Something happened recently that was caused by her, makes me look bad, and makes this other girl not want to be cool with me. But it was completely made up, and she’s way closer with my ex-friend than she is with me. She is TIRED of problems with me (when the source of these issues is really the other girl.) should I blow up my ex friends spot? ? Or should I be gracious?”
ghostbuster,
I think the solution to your problem is actually relatively simple. To answer your biggest question concerning whether or not you should “blow up your ex friend’s spot”… yes! Don’t ever let anyone throw dirt on your name, and you just sit there and take it. Air out all the facts. Be prepared to ruffle some feathers, but it’s better to be real and upfront rather than stand down or mask your displeasure. That’s how you become a push over.
Whoever this “ex friend” is, she sounds super messy. Write her off for good. And the honest truth is that if the people around you are allowing this girl to change their perception of you or treat you differently, you all may not be as close as you think. Either that, or those girls just don’t know how to be a true friend. You’re saying this girl is lying on you, and I’m taking your word for it (LOL) and as long as you know that, whoever is not on your side should be paidddd dust! I’m not saying that you shouldn’t have any friends or protect any relationships, but only the genuine ones deserve to be saved. You sound young, and I guarantee you’ll meet a lot of new people over the years!
So don’t be afraid to stand alone for a while if you must, but most importantly, don’t be afraid to stand your ground. You didn’t mention your age so I’m not exactly sure if the immaturity of this situation is warranted or not. But this issue does seem unnecessary (although it’s not your fault). Cut the cancer out of the group, show this girl’s true colors and keep it moving, girl! That’s my point. Your real friends will still be there. And good luck sorting this out, I think you’ll be fine.
Hope I helped you out!
Ajeé
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