“Okay so i had sex with a friend, and ever since its been sooo awkward. And i sorta just wanna repair it but im such a wuss and i would never bring that event up to him. im not really sure if iv caught feeling or not but i would deff be friends with benefits. but honestly i feel like were both dancing around it. and i really just dont like the awkardness”

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imakebaddecisions,

 

The first thing that I’m going to tell you is to be straightforward. Especially because things have been awkward between the two of you since then, the best thing you can do is talk about it in some capacity, and clear the air. And if you two really are friends, it shouldn’t be as bad or as difficult to stomach as you may think.

 

You’re saying that you’re not really sure whether or not you’ve caught feelings, but the way it sounds to me – you probably have. If you even have to question it… c’mon. And to tell you the truth, if you find that he doesn’t have the same feelings for you, I’d advise you NOT to continue your physical relationship. You’ll always be way more invested in the idea of you two being an item than he is, which will lead to expectations that you probably will not have met. This can lead to constant disappointment. Don’t put yourself in that position.

 

You seem sort of fragile, that doesn’t sound like a situation you would handle well. And it could get messy. So I say, have a straightforward conversation with your friend. Be honest, and see where it goes. But be prepared to maintain a strictly platonic (non-romantic) relationship with him if things don’t go the way you want. Spare yourself the stress, there are plenty of other guys out there to date and solid friendships are hard to come by. 😉

 

But good luck and be SMART, girl. I hope I helped!

 

Ajeé