“Im 20 years old and I’m still single. Everyone around me seems to have a relationship but me and it seems I’m going to be alone for the rest of my life. My friends tell me its because i don’t get out enough but I think its because I’m busy and the right one will come at the right time. There are also times where I feel like they may be right. What do you think?”

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singleandUNBOTHERED,

 

Believe it or not, I know plenty of people in their 20’s who are either single, or rarely date. And there are a few reasons for that, not all of them bad. But whatever that reason, I can assure you that you will not be alone for the rest of your life.

 

Ever heard the saying, “There’s somebody for everybody”? Well, it’s true! Whatever strengths, flaws or dispositions you may have, this world is so vast that SOMEONE, if not MANY people out there may very well be your perfect match.

 

If your friends think you’re not getting out enough, ask yourself why that is. Why have you been so confined to the house? Is it laziness? Lack of social skills? Low self-esteem? It’s important to consider because these are things that can do long term damage to a healthy social life or relationship if it goes on too long. It’s easy to get stuck in your ways. Try going out with your friends more. If you don’t like what they’re doing, try making the plans yourself. The more you get out, the more opportunities you have to meet someone new. Another tip: Go places where you can attract the type of person you want. That part is very important.

 

There’s also the possibility that you may just be busy like you said! You may just be naturally introverted. The truth is, the right person will come at the right time. Just because everyone around you is in a relationship, don’t feel pressed to have one… I’m sure they’re all pulling their hair out half the time, anyway :).  INSTEAD, if you really want to, try dating casually just to get to know people and get your feet wet, before you go looking for the person you’ll walk down the aisle with, lol. But you’re so young so FOCUS ON YOU! You’re only young once! You have all the time in the world.

 

Really hope I could help you out!

 

Ajeé