“There is a female I genuinely enjoy but her box is trash. How do I break the news? Am I doing her a favor by giving her work without expecting it in return or am I being foolish?”

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Sancho Saucey,

 

For starters, I’m not sure exactly what you mean when you say that you “genuinely enjoy” a “female”. I’m assuming that means that you genuinely like her as a person. Which should make this a little easier.

 

As far as how you break the news? Be honest. If you like this girl, tell the truth, but not in an abrasive way. You’re not doing her, or yourself any favors by hiding suffering through something that should be a mutually enjoyable experience. Also, she can’t fix something that she doesn’t know is “broken”. So to answer your question, frankly – you are being foolish. Sorry. You’re just wasting both of your time.

 

At some point during the discussion, tell her what you do like, then tell her what/how she can improve. It’s the only way. And if it’s so bad, or if there’s no improvement, just move on to someone else who will better suit your needs. There’s no shame in that, especially if you go about it the right way.

 

Hope I helped out!

 

Ajeé