“Hey I’m in desperate need of help. Me and my boyfriend of 2 years have been arguing so much lately over the most stupid shit and it’s literally exhausting me. I don’t wanna give up on us but I’m just so tired of always arguing all the time over nothing. What should I do?”

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HelpMe,

 

Forgive me for laughing, (not that you knew that I was) but this is just a problem that is all too common these days. And I wanna say it’s normally just in younger relationships, but I know for sure that is not the case. There is a big difference between chemistry and compatibility. They say a good relationship needs both to really flourish, not just one or the other. Although chemistry may be what has brought you this far, compatibility just might not be there.

 

Now, if you feel there is a chance that you can work on the communication within your relationship, maybe it’s not worth giving up just yet. Lack of communication is also a huge problem in a lot of romantic relationships, but it could be a problem in any type of relationship. Try dropping an issue and revisiting it when you both have cooled down. It also helps to have a conversation before a fight even starts, discussing the best ways you can address issues that you both get very passionate about. Facing your own communication issues, and hearing your partner’s… two people who love each other should be able to work that out. A calm, honest conversation is always a great idea.

 

If that doesn’t work, or if your relationship continues to be more about arguing than anything else, the best option might be an amicable split. Sometimes your partner doesn’t see that you’re serious about making real changes to the relationship until you prove that you can walk away if necessary. Allow them to see that a solution to your problems is not impossible or optional. Also, try not to wait too long to address issues that have been on their mind (all bottled up inside) which usually results in a blow-up when they finally do come out. Practice maturity and tolerate nothing less… it may just have to start with you. 😉

 

Good luck on that. Hope I helped!

 

Ajeé